Mediate or Marinate?

Man sitting alone

Are you ready to design your new life or would you prefer to marinate in a sauce of what I call FHAD: Fear, Hurt, Anger, and Disappointment? FHAD can have a profound impact on our physical and emotional well-being, negatively shaping how we think, behave, and interact with others. It can impact our relationships, our work, and in general, make us feel more stuck. So how do you know that you are ready for mediation? Here are some indicators that couples are ready for mediation.

Emotional Readiness and Well-being: Each individual is resolved that the relationship is over and are willing to find a mutually beneficial solution so they can move forward with their new lives. One or both may still have feelings of FHAD (Fear, Hurt, Anger, Disappointment) but are more interested in nurturing their emotional well-being.

Willingness to Cooperate: Both individuals are willing to work together rather than fight against each other. Each understands that they will have to compromise and may not get everything that they want, but will get what they need.

Focus on Family: A shared commitment to maintaining the co-parenting relationship for the benefit and well-being of the children.

Remember, in mediation, each of you retain control over your decisions instead of having a decision forced upon you and you will save time and money in the process.